Comments on: Prep Work

By: Robyn

Robyn — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 20:26:38 +0000

In reply to Andrea.

Hi Andrea!
I love your comment because it shows that everyone, EVERYONE in some way or another is bullied. I mean, to a certain extent, it is just kids being kids. That’s what they do. I’m adult and we still do it. For some reason, your comment just totally brought it to my attention though. It’s out there, everywhere–and no one is safe from it. It’s how we choose to react that is going to help define us. Avari has it down. That’s how I want my girls to be. “Who cares??? Seriously…who cares?” We could all learn a little something from Avari.

Thank you!!! Such a good one!
R

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 12:54:55 +0000

“I will kill that kid. I will pull HIS ears off and I will shove them in his pockets so he can hear better when I’m KICKING HIS ASS.”

Is it wrong that I laughed right out loud? You are right about kids will always find something to pick on someone about. My son had freckles and wore glasses at 4. He was the most confident kid (didn’t get it from me) you could ever know. Some kid called Brett 4 eyes when he was around 11 or 12 and he told the kid “So what? I can take these off but you can’t take ugly off!!” I didn’t cheer for him but I wanted to. My Sarah is 10 and just wants so badly to blend with everyone. This is hard because her dad and I are pasty blonde people and she she a gorgeous girl of Korean descent. About 3 months ago someone called her China girl which hurt her feelings not because she has a problem with being called Chinese (her 8 yr old sister is Chinese) but with the fact she doesn’t want to be different. Now Avari, my 8 yr old, shrugs her shoulders because she thinks it is so cool to be born in another country and being in many more places then her classmates. There will always be bullies but it sounds like your daughter has it covered :).

By: Robyn

Robyn — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 13:02:07 +0000

In reply to Paula. Why am I not surprised that your kids are begging YOU to stop talking??? (I have a feeling mine will be the same way though). Maybe I should just send them to your kids for their education. M did a much better job of teaching Sweet Pea to tie her shoes than I could have done! I love you, I love what a great mom you are and I love that you took the time to comment. You are good to me and for me. Thank you for always being such a great friend, for so many years.

By: Paula

Paula — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 11:21:38 +0000

LOVED this one, too!! I have always told my kids– “rotten kids come from rotten parents”. There is no chance these bully kids can be nice, they don’t know any better! Their parents are not able to provide good examples. My kids see that I am a great friend, and they are, too! That rotten “ear bully” doesn’t have any friends, so he has to make himself feel better by making someone else feel bad. It’s sad, but true.

I agree with preparing your kids, and talking about everything. No topic is off limits at my house. Even when we’re talking about something gross and disgusting, and they finally beg me to stop talking. At least we are all better educated.

You’re Sweet Pea is going to be fine. My favorite parenting motto: “this too shall pass”, and it will! Rock those ears, baby, and bring in one of your mom’s handbags as an accessory! Take that you big bad bullies!

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 03:33:34 +0000

Brian,
That was a really great comment. I am kicking myself for not considering that side of things. Thank you. Seriously, thank you. Very enlightening. I may not always listen to you but I hope you come back. You’re a smartie.
R

By: Brian

Brian — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 02:28:49 +0000

A colleague of mine (an RN who’s also a unit manager, caring wife, and pretty decent mother of a teenage boy) recently showed me the YouTube video of some close friends of hers renewing their wedding vows. Online. In World of Warcraft. As their WoW characters. The guests were all online, attending via headset, and she said several had bottles of champagne at their respective locations to celebrate. The youngest member of that guild is about 30. And — you guessed it — my colleague, the woman with the RN license, extra certifications, managerial position, and busy life… is an elf. Sweet Pea’s definitely got the right idea about how to deal with the bully in class, but you can let her know there are lots of grownups who’d looooove to have elf ears for real! 🙂

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 01:55:56 +0000

In reply to marci. Well that is certainly an idea... I will definitely put that on the list. Thanks!

By: marci

marci — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 01:16:32 +0000

She could always say that her biological mother was Arwyn from middle earth! And chew on THAT cretins!!!!

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 00:20:43 +0000

In reply to Uncle Joel. This is so great, Uncle Joel. Thank you so much. You made my whole day!

By: Uncle Joel

Uncle Joel — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 23:56:56 +0000

I remember my daughter told me that she was stupid, I could not believe what she was saying to me and I asked her who said that to her. She told me it was her Grandmother and my ex-wife. I told her well it sure proves that they are stupid for saying such a thing to such a smart kid. I cannot tell you the 2:00 a.m. wake-up discussions about what she went through and how to deal with it.

I am proud of my child, she is a very smart adult. She wanted to do a website for their Tennessee Walker Horse Association. I worked with her over the phone, and on her computer and she built two beautiful websites. It took me a year to learn what she did in a few weeks.

I am proud of Sweet Pea, she is surrounded by some wonderful parents and it seems she is getting the input she needs. I love her, she is a great kid. It is important that Sweet Pea is proud of herself and she should be.