Comments on: The Easier Way To Live

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 14:02:17 +0000

“Murder, yes…” That is very funny. I love what you said about “simple wisdom.” You totally get it. In the end, it’s really not going to matter so just be happy. It is so much better.

Thank you for commenting. It means a lot to me, especially because you are a guy. I always appreciate a solid, male perspective. Thank you so much.

By: Scott

Scott — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:40:29 +0000

I enjoy the simple wisdom. Is it easier to gear up and be mad and judgmental and make a point, yes, but the basic insight of everyday, things can pile up, it can be easy to focus on that, but really, how much will matter tomorrow, just be happy. As one long term married gal stated, after all the years of marriage, she never considered divorce. Murder, yes, but never divorce. A tongue in cheek overview of find a way to move past the things that we can let pile up, and be happy. I missed your posts. (PS, dont tell other guys this, ok? lol)

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:38:24 +0000

In reply to Edwina.

I’m so happy you liked it and I love that you found it helpful during this time in your life but what the hell is up with “the girlfriend??” I can’t believe your son would date anyone who A) hates you and B) could make a decision like that in 5 minutes.

You are awesome (or at least you seem to be). This girl sounds like she has some major issues. They’re young so I’m sure she won’t last but still, I’m sure it’s hard for you right now. Hang in there. Someone hotter and smarter will come along and she’ll be gone…And she can take all of her “hate” with her.

Love that you wrote in. Thank you!!!

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:31:33 +0000

In reply to ericka. I love that! I'm glad you liked it. I'm so torn about sharing this stuff but comments like yours make me feel so much better about it. Thank you. Thank you!!!

By: Edwina

Edwina — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 05:18:20 +0000

I had noticed that I had been staring many sentences with ‘I am not being judgemental but…’. We’ve all done it and its so easy to say without knowing that persons particular circumstances which may explain the reason why they are doing, saying whatever I have decided that I find unacceptable…in my position as the last word on everything you understand!
Lately I found myself in a situation with my son’s new girlfriend, believe me I could write a book on that whole ‘encounter’ but I digress. She had decided in the whole 5 minutes she knew me with her 19 year old wisdom that she hated me, yes actually hated me. That made me cry…a lot. Without going into the drama of it all it actually pulled me up quick smart. I did a lot of thinking and talking to my gorgeous mum, who reassured me that I WAS the most amazing women in the world, about how her snap judgement and harsh words that she made without knowing me hurt me more than I have been hurt in a long time.
The outcome is that I’m trying, really, really trying, to accept without judgement. It’s hard and I’ve probably slipped up a few times but I’m finding myself listening more and judging less…it feels good.
I loved your post.

By: ericka

ericka — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 03:48:56 +0000

LOVE this!!! I’ll put this something of “you” in my kids’ memory boxes 🙂 perfectly said!

By: Robyn

Robyn — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 15:36:16 +0000

In reply to Greta. Sanasa Sanasa!

By: Robyn

Robyn — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 15:35:59 +0000

In reply to Hazel M. Wheeler. Hazel!!! Hi, Hazel!! So good to see you too! I'm glad you liked this one. It seems to come up a lot in everyday life so I figured I'd get it out for my girls. That way when they complain about someone not living up to their expectations, I'll just make them read this and go take a break. :) Love hearing from you! Thank you so much.

By: Greta

Greta — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:48:43 +0000

Love you!

By: Hazel M. Wheeler

Hazel M. Wheeler — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:47:42 +0000

Acceptance. What a great topic for a post.
It’s the only way we can stay sane, accepting our realities and the abilities/limitations of those around us.

Your last line or two was rather a good reminder, actually. “f we learn to accept people for who they are, we won’t be disappointed. If we love them for the good stuff they bring to the table—and we know their limits—we can‘t get hurt.” Someone in my life has been grossly disappointing lately. While it doesn’t directly affect me,it hurts my heart. So this perspective was well-needed.

Good on you for taking care of your part of the world. I’m the same way with my husband and kiddo, too. Get stuff out in the open, get it discussed and managed. I’m the strict mom, too. I think the boundaries and structure actually let the kids have more fun when it’s time to have fun. When they know the rules, when the rules are consistent, it’s easier for them because they know what they *can* do and are able to navigate the world in a way which provides far more positive interactions than they might, otherwise.

I like Ashby’s mathematical ‘assessment’, too:”Consider that everyone is an equation. No one should be the sum of all their faults…..” Thanks for sharing that, Ashby. I’ll have to keep this in mind. 🙂

Good to see you online again, Robyn!