Comments on: After The Wait https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/ A little SUMthing about growing up, making mistakes and happy endings. Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:14:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20613 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:14:47 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20613 In reply to Shannon.

I’m crying. Flat out crying. That is exactly it. All the twists and turns are part of the journey but in the end we end up where we are supposed to be. I really do believe that. You’re so right and I’m so happy you are here. 6 years? That’s pretty impressive. It was up to a 4-6 year wait when we wanted to adopt the 2nd time and I was like “No.” I was too old for that kind of wait and I didn’t want the girls to be that far apart. It made me sad at the time because I thought we’d have two from China, but like you said, I wouldn’t trade one thing for how it all worked out. XOXOXO I adore you. XOXO

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20612 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:10:29 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20612 In reply to Brian Lev.

I’m proud of your sister too. Good for her! Those are the best role models. She wanted something and she figured how to do it without making herself crazy or compromising her integrity. Your mom must have done some good work because I have always enjoyed you and your sister sounds equally as cool. 🙂

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20611 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:07:55 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20611 In reply to Kathy.

I’m glad you’re able to hear me through the writing. Thank you and thank you for being here! I love that our bond has lasted all these years. XOXOXO

]]> By: Shannon https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20610 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 19:52:05 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20610 Robyn
You never disappoint. Loved this post. Deciding to be a single mom was a hard decision – one that needed to really ensure I was ready for….of course the 6+ year wait for my referral really made sure I was ready and allowed for a lot of fun while waiting……..now that T had been home 2 years I can honestly say best job EVER………she may not look like me and I don’t know her history but there’s no denying she’s 100% mine. Couldn’t imagine what life would be like during the wait- hoped I would find the way and now I realize you find the way as you go – sometimes you need a flashlight, other times you may take a wrong turn or someone helps point you in the right direction…. but at the end of the day wouldn’t trade anything for where we are right now.
Thanks!
Shannon

]]> By: Brian Lev https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20609 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 02:56:08 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20609 One day, about a year after we brought my niece home from China, Mom was watching her daughter & granddaughter and said to to my sister, “Some people want to be an astronaut or a fireman or an actor when they grew up. You just wanted to be a mommy when you grew up.” My sister’s only response was a satisfied smile (and a bop in the nose from her daughter). AJ was single (despite a couple of good relationships that didn’t pan out over the years) and had apparently decided long ago that she was going to be a mother by the age of 40 — so she did what she had to do in order to meet that goal after ruling out having a baby the “old fashioned” way with someone she didn’t really care for. Gotta say I’m proud of my “baby” sister… and am glad to read posts like this one that acknowledge the wonderful insanity that goes into becoming a parent regardless of the method. 🙂

]]> By: Kathy https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20608 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 01:29:28 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20608 That was really terrific…said in you own, personal style. The narrative was SO you and SO expressive. Having been through a part of your story, I understand much of what you wrote and love you even more for writing it!!!!!

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20607 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:57:25 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20607 In reply to Dan.

Thank you for sharing YOUR story. That could not have been easy for you—going through it and now reliving it. You KILL as a daddy and your daughter will always have sisters in my girls, just as you will always have a sister in me. LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Miss you guys every day.

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20606 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:55:34 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20606 In reply to Ashby.

AMEN to that, sister!!! 🙂

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20605 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:55:18 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20605 In reply to Eddie.

That must be such a hard thing to live with, Eddie, and even harder to share. When your son has kids, you will undoubtedly be one HELL of a Nana. You will make up for everything you think you missed, at a fraction of the cost! I think you are very special and we are all very lucky to have you here. Thank you so much. XOXOXO

]]> By: Robyn https://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/after-the-wait/#comment-20604 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:51:57 +0000 http://www.dimsumanddoughnuts.com/?p=4990#comment-20604 In reply to Julie.

Me too. It hasn’t really rubbed off on me though 🙂

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