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On Being Late

April 14, 2015

I don’t remember my high school curfew, but I know I was late a lot. Sometimes I didn’t make it home until sunrise. My dad no longer lived with us and I figured out ways to work around my mom. I feel bad now for worrying my mom, but back then, I didn’t care. Unfortunately for me—she did, so I got grounded a lot. It’s OK. Usually the punishment was worth the good time.

College was more of the same, but there was no curfew to blow off. I’m not sure if the bars didn’t open until after 11:00, or if that’s just when we showed up. We used to take “disco naps” before we went out and we showed up late—but everyone did because that’s when things got started—late.

There wasn’t a lot of urgency back then. I knew what I could be late for and planned accordingly. In turn, I don’t remember getting overly aggravated if someone else was late. I saw Guns and Roses once when I was in high school years and by the time Axl Rose finally decided to grace the stage, it was like 4 hours after he was supposed to. Did I care?? HAIL NO!! ROCK AND ROLL!!!

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But a few years ago, Van Morrison was over an hour late coming on and I was ready to ask for my freakin’ money back. What the hell, VAN?? Have some respect! It’s a school night!

I get it though. Performers need to be a little late. They’re building an atmosphere of hype and anticipation. One guy messes with the lights a little so the crowd gets excited and then a different guy comes running on stage so the crowd gets psyched thinking it’s the performer (but really it‘s a Roadie). Those things are expected at a concert. I have found though, as I have gotten older, that it doesn’t make you cool to be late—it just makes you late.

I’m not sure when it happened, but at some point my threshold of patience with  “lateness” has changed:

Here I sit waiting on an appointment that was supposed to be between 3:00 and 5:00 P.M. I called earlier to see about what time they’d get to me so I could maybe run out for a bit, but they said the guy would be at my place around 3:30. OK. No problem—except it’s now almost 5:00.

Of course, I’m late for things too. Who isn’t? It’s not always feasible to be on time. I will get in the car and forget something in the house (usually my phone, every single day) and then when I go back in to get it, I can‘t find it. Or, I’m in the car, all ready to go (phone and everything) and I forget that someone else is parked in my driveway so I, inevitably, smash their car.

Those things usually make me late, but I really do try to keep my lateness to a minimum. I don’t like when someone is late, so I try not to do it.

It’s weird how things change. There are things that never used to bother me that now bother me, and there are things that used to bother me that no longer do. Priorities change, people change, even technology changes.

Like texting, we didn’t have that when I was in high school, (missing curfew) but it would have been a good thing for me and my mom. It wouldn’t have made me come home on time, but I could have (at the very least) let her know that I was alive somewhere. That would have been helpful. Maybe I wouldn’t have been punished so much…?

Probably not though.

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  1. Sara says

    April 14, 2015 at 8:21 am

    So true! And don’t get me started! My job requires me to be 15 minutes early so I can be set up and ready and do you think anybody EVER shows up on time? Nooo! And I’m not waiting for a rock star 😉 I have a strong opinion on this. I think it’s rude to assume somebody else’s time isn’t worth what yours is, right?

    • Robyn says

      April 14, 2015 at 9:00 am

      Right??? Did I put that in there? Why is their time more valuable? I think my time is also valuable. Yours is too! I meant to put that in there. Nothing worse than rushing to be somewhere and then waiting. Gets me so heated!! ARGH!!!

  2. Julie says

    April 14, 2015 at 9:34 am

    By the third sentence I knew what was coming! Late sucks, at this stage of the game we really do have places to be! xo

    • Robyn says

      April 14, 2015 at 9:29 pm

      3rd sentence? Nice…

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