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My Daughter: “Scamerella”

October 5, 2014

My daughter, F,  is 7 years old and she is a bit of a “scammer.”

Scamming, if you’re not familiar, is a lot like lying but it’s done in a way that isn’t as obvious, or at least it’s not meant to be. F scams quite a bit, so I’m sure she gets away with it here and there (law of averages), but I do catch her a lot. Sometimes I’ll blow her cover on the spot and sometimes I’ll act clueless—and bust her later just to mess with her.

Like this one time, we were at a friend’s house and F had to go to the bathroom. As usual, I yelled “Wash your hands!!” when she was on her way because if I’m not physically IN THE BATHROOM with her, she’ll for sure scam her way out of the washing part—which is exactly what she did.

How did I know? Because when I went to the bathroom to wash my hands, I noticed that the only hand towel in the trash was mine, and there wasn’t an alternative towel option.

BUSTED.

If you’re going to scam, at least be good at it.

I didn’t say anything during our visit, but when we were in the car, settled and discussing our fun time, I threw out a “Hey F, when you went to the bathroom, did you wash your hands?” And she said “Yes” and I said “That’s a lie.“

She was incredulous. “What?!? Mommy!! HOW DID YOU KNOW??” And I simply said “Because I’m your mom.” (And then my friend who was in the passenger seat gave me a look that said “How DID you know?“)

But the answer is the same.

Let’s face it, if I wasn’t her mom, why would I care? What do I care if some kid does or doesn’t wash his hands after peeing? He’s not my problem, as long as he doesn’t touch me with his pee-filled hands.

F is very busy. I understand that. And washing your hands is kind of a pain. It’s not even the fact that she doesn‘t always wash that bugs me (it‘s gross, yes, but not my biggest problem), it’s the scamming.

She scams a lot. She’s “Scamerella.” If she’s only allowed one piece of candy, and she doesn’t think I saw her take the first piece, she will roll the dice and go for another? It’s worth a shot, right? With some people, yes. They don’t know of her ways—they’d never suspect an “SIP” (Scam In Progress).

But me? Her Mommy?? I may not have birthed her, but I know her. I know her well and though I do understand why she scams, I can’t (for the life of me) understand why she continues to do it with me. Her track record is awful.

But the other night, she did it again.

As part of F’s 2nd grade homework, she has to hand in four word activities every Friday. She told me that she did all four of them. I knew she didn’t. I gave her a few chances to come clean but she continued to made up all kinds of stuff until I busted her. She had an answer for everything. It was extremely aggravating and all she succeeded in was wasting time.

I got her good though.

I didn’t make her do the fourth activity. Instead, I made her write an apology letter—not to me, to her teacher—and I told her what to write. F wasn’t happy. F LOVES her teacher and she doesn’t want her teacher to think badly of her. She even went so far as to plead “But, mommy, I don’t scam in class!” (Oh, that’s nice! So it’s just me that you scam? NOT ANYMORE, SISTER!!)

I don’t think F thought I was going to make her go through with it, but I did. I don’t think she thought that I was going to make her hand it in, but I did. In truth, while it was all going down, I questioned whether or not it was the right parenting move, but I was in deep. Drastic times/drastic measures, yo.

This was the letter:

Dear Mrs. C,

I know that we are supposed to do four activities. I only did three but I told my mom that I did four. I lied. My mom wants me to “own” it. I’m sorry.

Love, F

The “I’m sorry” part of the letter was all F. She put that in all by herself. That made me happy because as far as her teacher is concerned, she really is sorry.

And who knows? Maybe a little bit of that “I’m sorry” is for me.

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  1. jill says

    October 5, 2014 at 9:22 am

    My favorite part was “SIP”. One of my kids has “scammer” written all over him. He’s only four but he’ll do that thing with the candy.

    • Robyn says

      October 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm

      Next time he goes for that extra piece, just say “I got you! SIP SIP!!” He will think you’re insane but he’ll back away from the candy. 🙂

  2. Sara says

    October 5, 2014 at 9:31 am

    I think she likes a challenge? I tell my kids mommies have eyes everywhere. The little one still believes me.

    • Robyn says

      October 5, 2014 at 5:06 pm

      Will you tell my kids that too? They will believe you. Everything out of my mouth is like Charlie’s Brown parents…WAH WAH WAH WAH. 🙂

  3. Audra says

    October 5, 2014 at 9:59 am

    The good news is, your daughter’s normal:) The “mean teacher” in me would have made one of her “school words” be part of the letter….. I have a Scamerella and Scamerooni of my own. I always ask them which they think bothers me more…the thing they didn’t do, or the lie. I think it’s important to let them know that we’re “on to them” before those teen years hit…. Good move, Mommy!

    • Robyn says

      October 5, 2014 at 5:04 pm

      Ooh, Audra! That would have been even better! I wish I had thought to add one some of her words in the letter. You are GOOD!! Really good!

  4. brenda jaffe says

    October 5, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    An awesome lesson Robyn,,,,it isn’t easy being a parent…I always say I am glad I lived long enough to see my kids as wonderful adults.

    • Robyn says

      October 5, 2014 at 5:05 pm

      I appreciate that, Brenda, especially coming from you–an amazing parent with two very special and amazing kids (and grandchildren too!!!) Bubba Forever!!! Love you!

  5. Kim says

    October 5, 2014 at 9:14 pm

    Let my daughter tell her about getting shigella and being in the hospital for 4 days literally pooping her guts out. She will ALWAYS wash her hands after that. In fact my daughter now reminds ME to wash my hands “or you might get shigella!”

    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2014 at 8:27 am

      Hi Kim, Shigella does not sound like fun. I have never heard of it but I’d prefer not to get it. Washing your hands, good. Shigella, BAD. 🙁

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