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Happy Mother’s Day

May 8, 2011

Today is Mother’s Day. It’s a very special day in which we honor mothers, grandmothers and stepmothers–unless you’re a wicked stepmother and then you don’t get honored, but you do get representation in almost every Disney movie.

On this day, I’d like to take a moment to wish one mother in particular a very Happy Mother’s Day: Sweet Pea’s birth mother. (Sorry, mom, I know you thought it was going to be you.)

I don’t know the circumstances surrounding Sweet Pea’s birth mother’s decision to give up her daughter. …Maybe she was waiting for a son. Maybe she already had a child and the one child rule in China prevented her from having another. Maybe she wasn’t married. I don’t know. I just know that a very selfless mother in a country very far away brought my child into this world and for her own reasons, gave her up.

I imagine this day can’t be easy for her.

I went into the adoption under the impression that we were doing something really great and really commendable. We were going to free Sweet Pea from the orphanage and give her a better life. But in the end, it was Sweet Pea who gave us a better life. The moment she was put into my arms, she transformed a couple into a family, she became a sister to Floyd Coden, and two years later, she became a big sister to Lovey.

And she made me a mother.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there who, like me, are doing the best that they can do. I hope you get fat ass, crazy expensive presents and maybe a minute to yourself today.

And Happy Mother’s Day to Sweet Pea’s birth mother, who gave me the best gift of all.

 

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  1. Hazel M. Wheeler says

    May 8, 2011 at 11:10 pm

    I love that you are remembering Sweet Pea's mother. My mother's second husband adopted me, and I know how special it is to have a parent who *chose* you.

    Our hearts can only be touched by our children when those hearts are open. What a wonderful post. Thank you.

  2. Heather says

    May 10, 2011 at 9:02 am

    What a fantastic post. Just last night I was telling DH that I can't wait to get my first coffee-filter dyed flower from our new little one. I have one from both of our bio kids, and I can't wait for the third one to complete my 'set'.

  3. sara says

    May 14, 2011 at 10:18 pm

    beautiful – it was all meant to be.

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