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6 Things I Learned From a 38 Special Concert

A few months ago one of my girlfriends (“Fly”) got a new car—one of those really cool new jeeps. The jeep had 38 miles on it so I started calling it “38 Special.” Right after Fly bought the car, she and “38 Special” went on a road trip.

After that trip, Fly went on a bunch of other road trips, but her last one ended in northern Michigan, where she will be staying for awhile. That’s great for me because that‘s where I am. (I live at an overnight camp for kids during the summer.)

There aren’t a lot of people my age working at camp so my friend selection is very limited. Fly being here means I have someone fun to go out with, because sometimes I feel the need to leave camp and do things, like see a 38 Special concert.

 

When I saw that they were coming to town, I flipped out. It was too perfect for us. 38 Special was pretty popular in the 80’s so it’s not like we didn’t know the hits. We weren’t super fans (we didn’t have posters on our walls or pins on our jackets), but we were “fans” enough, and we HAD to go.

How could we NOT?

 

Admittedly, we didn’t stay for the whole show—but while were there, we danced and fist pumped our way through every song (even the slow ones) and during those 38 VERY special moments of Rockin’ Into the Night, I learned 6 things:

1. Everything is better with music. No matter what it is that you are doing, if there is music around, it will be better. If it’s live, that’s the best.

2. Tension in a small group is normal. I don’t know FOR SURE if there is tension between the guys of 38 Special, I’m just saying that the keyboard player looked a little annoyed that that the lead singer was doing all the introductions—like he was the leader. They’re a band, is there a leader?

Of course, there needs to be some kind of leadership, but just because you’re the lead singer doesn’t mean you’re the leader. And he wasn’t even the only singer!! The keyboard guy was a singer too! He had a HUGE hit. I can’t remember what it was called but it was big. Maybe he wanted to do the introductions?? I don’t know, the keyboard player just seemed mad. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe the lead singer is the actual “agreed upon” leader. If that’s the case, that’s great, I just wish I would have known because I would have spent a lot less time feeling bad for the keyboard player.

3. Hold on loosely. But don’t let go.

4. A lot of what makes a concert good, or anything for that matter, is the people around you. If you’re with fun people, you’re going to have fun (unless you’re not fun and then you should just stay home). But, if you’re fun and the people around you are fun, you’re going to have fun.

Once I went to an Eminem, 50 Cent, Obie Trice, concert at Comerica Park in Detroit. I found a great spot in the pit so I was really excited—but when I first got there, there were a few minutes where I didn’t feel confident about my good time. I felt very unwanted in my section. I felt like an old, white, Jewish mom from the suburbs. I couldn’t figure out if I was really cool for being in that section, or if I was a huge loser for being that big of a fan. (The friend that was with me was cool so if I was a loser, at least I was bringing him down with me.)

Anyway, I could tell the people weren’t thrilled with me being all up in their action at first, but once they gave me a chance, we were sharing drinks and 50 Cent’s cousin was offering me piggy back rides so I could see better. (At least that’s who he said he was, and I believed him.)

5. Just because you’re getting older doesn‘t mean you don’t get to go to concerts anymore. The Silver Fox in front of us was having a blast, taking pictures with a flip phone and shaking his booty. His wife though, wasn’t having quite the same good time. When she wasn’t pulling on his sleeve and pointing at her watch, she was knitting.

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Fly and I felt bad for that guy. Next time Flip Phone should leave his wife at home and come hang with us.

6. As you get older, you need less. The room 38 Special played was part of a casino. It holds around 1000 people. That is, by no means, the biggest show that band has ever played, but they didn’t care. They didn’t need to fill a stadium or arena. In fact, in the middle of one of the songs, the “Lead” singer announced that he had “the best job in the world.“

That’s a good place to be. When I saw Eddie Money play a few years ago at an Italian restaurant, he kept saying that he should have “held onto his money.” He made a ton of cash and messed up. That has to suck. 38 Special must have done something right. We could all learn a little something from them.

And Fly just sent me this picture. I guess I know what I’m doing July 12.

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Thanks for being here! #rockon

 

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  1. You are so awesome. I’m guessing everywhere you go you have fun! This FLY seems like an amazing person.

  3. Funny stuff! Would you believe, I have seen 38 Special, as Pine Knob actually. So funny that the wide in front of you was knitting. We went to a nationally televised Tigers Game the other day, sat in the front row. Brendan caught a ball. Mari literally read a book the entire game! When we left, she said ” hey, where’d you get the ball?” She’ll be the one knitting at the concert later in life!!

    • HAHAHAHA!!! I love that she didn’t even notice that he caught a ball and that is BIG!!! I bring magazines to Tiger’s games. Tell Mari that we can sit together and Brendan better not get in our way, we’re very busy… 🙂

  4. Stooooop….this is bananas amazing. You had me at “I felt very unwanted in my section” and then I fell in love with you at bump and grind derby.

    • I think you are the only that caught that, thank you!! When they saw me, they were all like “WTF is SHE doing here?” But I came to have fun and if I had to MAKE them have fun with me, fine.

      Please tell me that you caught the line about “Rockin’ Into the Night…” because that was one of their songs and I was so proud of myself that it fit so perfectly in my intro. Just tell me that you got it and I will believe you bc you are bananas amazing!

    • I think you are the only that caught that, thank you!! When they saw me, they were all like “WTF is SHE doing here?” But I came to have fun and if I had to MAKE them have fun with me, fine.

      Please tell me that you caught the line about “Rockin’ Into the Night…” because that was one of their songs and I was so proud of myself that it fit so perfectly in my intro. Just tell me that you got it and I will believe you bc you are bananas amazing!

  5. I don’t know the 38 specials but if they are an 80’s band I bet they rock 🙂 I would like to add another point…when we go and see bands, especially ones that take us back to our teens when life was very fluro and we were all in love with George Michael, music can evoke such memories. Personally every song that I love from the 80’s reminds me of a boy, a place, my friends and how I used to record the song on my cassette player, pausing after every line so I could write down the words and casually sing them word perfect at a party…oh the feeling of power that gave me…

    • I couldn’t agree more, Eddie. I talk to my kids all the time about how music can bring back good memories but sometimes it brings back hard ones as well. There is a song (a song that they love) that I have an especially hard time with. My husband introduced them to it but I put it on my ipod bc they love it. Now, every time it comes on, JJ says “Mommy has a hard time with this song, but she knows we like it so she lets us listen, but sometimes she cries.” Maybe that cuteness will be the “new” memory for me. 🙂

  6. Not only did I catch it. I I used that line after I read it. I can’t even believe your real and exist.

    • You could be the only one. I think I’m so funny and I have no idea if anyone catches my $h#t. Please don’t ever leave me.

  7. Absolutely Robyn. I have a song like that too. I try to avoid it but I’ll never for get the time my boy was little and I was doing the silent cry with tears rolling down my face and my little one ‘cuggled’ me for the whole song…he didn’t know why, just knew his mummy needed him. It’s lovely how we have both changed the meaning of our respective songs through our gorgeous kids xxx

    • We’re so progressive, Eddie! I know ALL about that silent cry. Kids are loving the song, belting it out, and I’m at the sink, doing dishes, weeping with memories.

      We are truly lucky to have kids that are sensitive enough to love certain songs, yet, at the same time, know how they affect us. You are so right. We are so lucky.

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