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Charity Begins At Home

February 24, 2016

Every morning I walk my dog, Bruno Marshall, around the neighborhood.

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We live in a neighborhood where the houses are far apart and the streets are usually free from cars, unless someone is throwing a party. The speed limit is 25, but there’s a lot of space and the streets are long so many people think the speed limit is negotiable.

Well, it’s not.

I am never more self righteous than when some idiot is speeding in my hood. When Bruno and I are walking and this happens, I always put my hand up LIKE A BOSS to get their attention. From there, they either slow down from shame, or they think “screw her” and keep going.

Yesterday, some guy came FLYING around the corner and, as usual, I did my “boss” thing. He slowed down instantly (You know he did!) and then he gave me the thumbs up sign as he drove by.

It got me thinking about how lucky I am to be living in a neighborhood where a driver gives me the thumbs up sign, because some neighborhoods aren’t like that. There are some neighborhoods where I might get the middle finger or, even worse, the barrel of a gun.

That sh*t happens. It does. I should probably be more careful about scolding random drivers, but I know I won’t. (It’s the only time all day that I’m completely 100% positive that I’m in the right and I don’t want to waste it.)

As Bruno and I walked, I thought about the at-risk kids I used to work with. I remembered the neighborhoods where they grew up and how, if I lived there, I probably wouldn’t be so quick to shame every driver that went over the speed limit. Those neighborhoods were tough and a cap in your ass is no way to start the day.

Those kids I worked with didn’t choose to grow up in that environment, they were born into it. I always had trouble with that: the unfairness of it all. In fact, working with those kids was undoubtedly a main motivator for us to adopt a child. Get a child out of one environment and into a better one. Win-Win.

Now that I have two kids of my own, I want them to be aware that there are other kids who aren’t as fortunate as them.

We, quite often, discuss the different kinds of lives that other kids lead. It’s important for us to have that dialogue, especially because my older one hails from less desirable conditions than those she is used to now.

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She doesn’t care though. She’s very busy and can’t be bothered right now, but hopefully one day she will. Hopefully they both will. In the meantime, here’s our starting point:

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That’s a Tzedakah box (pronounced tse-dock-ah). My younger daughter made it when she was in pre-school. It’s used to hold change for charity. Tzedhakah is a Hebrew word meaning justice or righteousness but commonly used to signify charity. If you grew up in the 70’s (and you’re Jewish) you’re probably familiar with this one:

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Anyone can have a Tzedakah box though. You don’t have to be Jewish and it doesn’t have to look any certain way. It doesn’t even have to be called a Tzedakah box (but “Tzedakah” is fun to say). My daughter’s Tzedakah box currently has .06 in it, and a flower sticker. I don’t think she’s going to be changing any lives with her broke ass Tzedakah box, but it’s a start.

There are no rules when it comes to getting kids involved with charity, but if I had to come up with a few (besides the Tzedakah box) it would be these two:

Pick a charity that means something to you.

We are usually drawn to children’s charities. Working with at-risk kids was good for me until I got bogged down with kids of my own. When I met my husband, I got lucky that he was on the board of The Bear Hug Foundation because it became part of my life as well. The BHF sends underprivileged, at-risk and special needs kids to camp. (And I can tell you, first hand, that there is NOTHING like watching a kid who would never normally get to go to camp experience that kind of magic.) Watching kids who live an otherwise fearful life, smiling and laughing in a safe and happy environment—there’s nothing like it.

But kids and camp might not be your thing. No problem! There are lots of charities out there. Maybe cancer is closer to your heart, or something environmental, or maybe Derek Zoolander’s Center For Children Who Can’t Read Good And Wanna Learn To Do Other Stuff Good Too? (Not everyone will get that, but the ones who do will think it’s funny.)

Give what you can.

Charity works on a sliding scale. There’s no obligation. We give what we can—and it doesn’t have to be money! It can be items you’re no longer using, or it can be time. Time is HUGE. Spending time at a group home with mentally challenged people or serving or delivering food to those in need are both great.

Still, that .06 and sticker in the Tzedakah box won’t add up overnight, so if you have any charities that you love, please comment below or on the Dim Sum and Doughnuts Facebook page so my family (and hopefully others) can explore different charities.

And if you know of one where we can sit around eating cake and listening to Eminem with people who need us, make sure to put some stars by it. We’ll hit that one up first.

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XOXO The DS+D Crew

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  1. Jennifer Fishkind says

    February 25, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    I <3 U!!! Can't wait to see the new sparkly shiny beautiful site!!!!

    • Robyn says

      February 26, 2016 at 10:28 am

      You and me both, sister! 🙂 Thanks for being here!

  2. Marissey says

    February 26, 2016 at 10:33 am

    Love this so so much!!

    • Robyn says

      February 26, 2016 at 12:02 pm

      You’re so great, Marissey!!! Means the world to me. Thank you!!!! 🙂

  3. Syd says

    February 27, 2016 at 5:18 am

    LOVE this! Can’t wait to see the new site…when your new posts come out it makes my day!

    • Robyn says

      February 27, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      Syd, your comment made MY whole day!!! Love you!!!

  4. Eddie says

    February 28, 2016 at 9:57 am

    How gorgeous…such a great way to be, to have it in your heart to help others and with your camp, you are able to help put a smile on a little ones face. I love that.
    I know I don’t do enough but I would like to. After reading your post I am going to do something. Maybe a box for my change or volunteering somewhere. I’m not sure yet but I’ll do it.
    And if I find a charity that has Eminem as their soundtrack I’ll be sure to let you know…

    • Robyn says

      February 28, 2016 at 10:20 am

      When I first read your comment, I thought it said “Hi gorgeous!” I was so happy. But it doesn’t say that. It say “How gorgeous” which is also good, but (for any future comments) not AS good.

      I am so happy to see you here, Eddie! And I love that you actually read the whole thing AND you got a take away!! You are smart, I love that. Keep me in mind if you hear anything on Em. You know how to find me and WHAT to call me. 🙂

  5. lori feldman says

    March 1, 2016 at 10:04 am

    your hilarious!!! I usually give the peace sign, just saying!! lol

    • Robyn says

      March 1, 2016 at 10:10 am

      The peace sign is good too!!! AHAHAHAHA! What about the peace sign on one hand and the thumbs up sign on the other? Try it. It’s not so easy!!!

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