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Mailbag Monday! Anti-Semitism, Restaurant Meltdowns & Masturbation

August 4, 2014

It’s “Mailbag Monday!” Below are some of the topics/questions that were sent in and up for discussion this week. Feel free to agree, disagree, add on, whatever you want. Here we go:

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–When did all of this anti-Semitism begin?

Anti-Semitism (hatred of Jewish people) started forever ago, but I’m sure the person asking the question is referring to the current wave sweeping through parts of Europe. I’m not sure if what’s happening (violence, threats, hate speech) is because a bunch Jew hating losers are using the Hamas-Israeli war as a platform to be open and violent about their hatred, or maybe it’s a bunch of new dumb asses who are looking for people to hate and following someone else’s lead…?

Either way, there is some crazy stuff happening there. The NY Times reported that a rabbi in Frankfurt, Germany got a phone call saying that if any of the caller’s family in Gaza was harmed, 30 Frankfurt Jews would be killed.

WHAT? How in the hell is a rabbi in Germany supposed to control whether the caller’s people will or will not be harmed? That’s just insane and, quite frankly, a lot of responsibility to put on one person. What kind of phone call is that ANYWAY?? I don’t care what religion you are, getting a phone call like that is just not right.

 

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–If you saw a kid acting up and being really loud in a restaurant, would you do something or would you just ignore it?

CAN you ignore it? Is it “ignorable” or is it ruining your dining experience? If I’m out with my friends or family and we’re in a restaurant and some kid going bat s**t crazy, I’ll give the parent the benefit of the doubt (the parent is entitled to figure out a good strategy to end the madness) but, honestly, if it’s going on for a long time, then yes, I probably will do something. I can’t help it. I can’t deal with all that craziness while I’m trying to eat and if the parent is not doing anything to diffuse the situation, well that’s not fair to anyone in the restaurant.

I already had kids that age so I get it, I was there—and I still say take care of your kid, DO SOMETHING, especially if it’s a kid who’s at an age where he can be reasoned with. Sorry mommy, but I’m paying to be here. Why should I spend my hard-earned money on a front row seat to your kid’s meltdown? I’m here to eat; I don’t even know your kid.

But there is a good chance that I will get to meet him because if he doesn’t shut it soon, I’m going to your table and in a really high-pitched voice that kids and dogs love I will say “What’s going on, little man?? What’s wrong?” and the kid will be like “Who the hell is THIS lady???” and I will start asking a bunch of questions about why he’s so upset, then I’ll commiserate with him and spew a whole bunch of crap like “I know, little man. It’s all going to be OK,”  and then…it’s the craziest thing ever…but he stops. He stops!!

Sometimes a “new person” is all the kid needs to shut him up. Parents become white noise to kids after awhile so even if the parent is doing and saying all the right things, the kid is not listening or caring.

But a different person? A different voice? That can totally baffle a kid and, in the end, it all works out because the meltdown is over, the mom is done stressing, and I can get back to stuffing my face.

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–Kids and Masturbation

YAY!! Masturbation talk! Always so FRESH!! A few weeks ago I re-released an old post called The Gynie Monologues, and even as I re-read it, I felt dirty. Not dirty like “dirty mind” but dirty like I needed to wash up after. Masturbation isn’t so much “dirty in the head” as it is just “dirty.” Even if you’re a girl and you skip the whole “sock deposit” that boys do, you still might have to clean up after.

Masturbation, in and of itself, is a natural thing. It’s really not a big deal unless you make it one. I have two little girls and right now they’re not at a place where they are masturbating, but my 5 year old is ALL ABOUT her vagina. (va-GI-na. Seriously, who thought of that word? And PE-NIS? That‘s not much better.)

Anyway, the 5 year old, she loves her gynie. She plays it like it’s a guitar. She will take a huge leap half way across the room, land on her feet and start playing her gynie like she’s Pete Townsend. Then she’ll butt up against her 7 year old sister and start rubbing her tushie on her. The 7 year old is all “Quit rubbing me with your gynie and your tushie!!” But she doesn’t quit. She just switches sides.

That’s where my kids are right now. They may get to a place in their lives when they start “experimenting” with themselves, and that’s cool. I don’t know exactly what I will do because I‘m not there yet, but I will probably just tell them to be discreet, and when they’re done, to wash their hands (with soap) really well.

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  1. Sara says

    August 4, 2014 at 8:57 am

    So true about needing a new person to shut a kid up! I used to quietly ask whoever was behind me in line at the grocery store, etc to please ask my child to behave for his mommy. Worked every time. Used to freak him out. But for child number 1 i used to have to ask the person in line to please not look at my child (he would cry lol!)

    • Robyn says

      August 4, 2014 at 9:13 am

      Dying!! Loved that you ASKED someone else to tell your kid to behave!!! Only you. I’m totally going to start doing that. Brilliant!!

  2. Leslie Berlin says

    August 4, 2014 at 9:59 am

    Omg, I’m so scared of this !! Especially since
    I have 2 boys – one up there with u at camp
    12 !!! I’m sure they got into this topic at camp
    – they love me to come in and check on them
    at night – whoa – not sure I can do that anymore
    . Your girls are adorable and at least
    You can avoid the whole sock issue .
    Thanks for the entertainment !
    Leslie
    aka – surrounded by penis’ (can’t even plural it )

    • Robyn says

      August 4, 2014 at 10:09 am

      You can check on them, I would just knock first!! 🙂
      I will have my hands full with my two divas, but yes, at least I get to avoid the “sock deposit.” (Don’t send me yours!)
      So happy to have you here, Leslie!! Thank you for reading! 🙂

  3. "Julia" says

    August 4, 2014 at 4:17 pm

    I’m sending L and N to you, Tusha, for when they start “experimenting.” So not ready for any of this. None of it. None.

    XO

    • Robyn says

      August 4, 2014 at 9:53 pm

      We will get through it together, Julia. Don’t worry!!!!! I’m here for you (though I’m not sure how comforting that is…) XOXOXOXO

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