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5 Punishments You Must Try!

November 21, 2015

I have two daughters; one is 6 and one is 8. The 6 year old, for the most part, is very good. She’s a pleaser, she only wants Mommy and Daddy to be proud of her:

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The 8 year old though, she doesn’t really care what we think:

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She cares about what she can get away with and lately she’s been exhibiting certain behaviors that are not acceptable so down, down, down she goes.

Punishment is no fun for anyone, but kids need to know: If they do things that aren’t OK, they are gonna have to pay.

I don’t remember getting punished when I was their age so my frame of reference is thin. I do know that when I was in high school, my mom’s go-to punishments were taking away my phone or not letting me go out. (She even grounded me from Homecoming once; I’m still not over it.) But my kids are 6 and 8. They don’t have phones yet and they think Homecoming is a movie.

So what am I left with?

TV is always a solid punishment. “You’re in trouble! No TV, go read!”

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But, come on…you know they’re not reading. Sure, they stomp into their rooms and grab a book, but they don’t read it. They sulk, they cry and they think about how much mommy sucks.

I’m over it, so I have been mixing it up, and out of everything I have tried, these are the 5 punishments I find work best —and they can be used in conjunction with each other.

1. The “NO” Punishment

The “NO Punishment” is basically saying “NO” to everything your kid wants, all day, every day for as long as you want.

Mommy? Can I have a new Ever After High doll?—NO.

Mommy? Can I have a play date after school?—I think NO.

Mommy? Can I have dessert? —Uh….NO.

Mommy? Can I…? —NO NOPE NOPETY NOPE!!! HAHAHAHAHA!!

“NO” will break any child after awhile. Plus it’s easy and loads of fun. #StayStrong #WhoCaresIfTheyHateYou

 

2. The Make-Stuff-Up Punishment

This is when you, the parent, make up a punishment about something AWESOME the kid was GOING to get, but now, since the kid is in trouble, she will no longer get.

“Oh, that’s really too bad that you just lied because I was going to take you shopping for a new dress and probably shoes and definitely ice cream, but now I’m not. ARE YOU SORRY NOW? I THINK YOU ARE!!!”

If you have an older kid, or a boy, and you want to employ this punishment, just substitute the new dress and shoes with Sonic Burger, Shake Shack or In-and-Out Burger (depending on where you live).

 

3. The Sibling’s Choice Punishment

This one works best with siblings:

Sibling’s Choice is simply telling the kid who’s in trouble that they are still allowed certain privileges, like TV, but their sibling gets to pick everything that they watch. EVERYTHING. The troublemaker has ZERO say, so if the sibling who isn’t in trouble picks something they both enjoy like Liv and Maddie, that’s a win for the kid in trouble—but if the sibling is in the mood to kick back and watch a little My Little Pony and the troublemaker doesn’t like it, TOO BAD, so sad!

 

4. The Favoritism Punishment

This one is as bad as it sounds. It’s a mind f**k and although it works with kids of all ages, it’s another one that works best with siblings:

The Favoritism Punishment is flat-out favoritism. (I’m aware that it’s frowned upon to favor one child over another, but it’s temporary. Desperate times, yo!)

All you do is make a point (very loudly) to positively reinforce the kid who DIDN’T piss you off while silently reminding the one who did that you haven’t forgotten her crime.

“OK, guys! You can BOTH have a piece of candy BUT (directed towards the good kid) YOU get two (or three) extra pieces because you have been GREAT about NOT spending an extra 25.00 of your school lunch account on Doritos and Pop Tarts INSTEAD of eating the awesome food I SEND YOU! Good job NOT doing that!!! Enjoy your extra candy! Don’t forget to brush!”

And then you just look at the other kid like “Sorry. Hope your Doritos memories are good ones. Next time eat the banana I sent you first!” BOOM.

 

5. The Outfit Punishment

Hands down–my fave–because this one gets my kids where it really hurts. It’s their Achilles’ heel.

Give the sibling who isn’t in trouble free reign in the troublemaker’s closet to pick anything they want for their sibling to wear. ANYTHING THEY WANT. No Exceptions. No Protests. Whatever they pick, the other one has to wear. Polka dot stretch pants, pink flats, a bird skirt and a beaded t-shirt? Sounds good to me!

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Don’t let the smile fool you. She was NOT happy with the outfit. In no way is that something she would have picked. Sorry, sister! Have a good day at school!

No sibling available to pick the outfit? No problem. YOU pick! Make her wear anything you want! You know that plaid button down top that you love and she hates? Now’s your chance! You already took the tags off so you might as well get some use out of it…and she hates it? JACKPOT!!

If you have any creative punishments you’d like to share, I would like NOTHING MORE than to add them to my list. Happy Punishing!

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  1. Sam says

    November 24, 2015 at 12:53 am

    I have one in college and one in 5th grade. This punishment works for either one! It’s called “Mom can make life hell in public”!

    Mom gets to say any embarrassing thing she wants about you in public! Let me show you how to play!

    Cullen (19 years old this week) ticks me off for various reasons, but I withhold punishment until that perfect moment in front of his friends or total strangers in public. Example: “Cullen! Sweetie-cheeks!! Did you remember to flush the potty after you had the runs before we left?! It smelled soooo bad!!! Did you take your tummy medicine or do you need to poopy again?! Remember, don’t toot! It may not just be gas, honey!” Especially effective. Just the threat of me doing this gets me anything I want and lots of apologies!!!

    Now Kieren is 10.5 years and a tough nut to crack! She is the Queen of Stoic Chinese! I sic her dad on her. He LOVES to put on his nasty old yard-work clothing and will take her out in public. Just the threat of Dad taking her to dance classes or to school dressed in ripped, stained, greasy, droopy pants and gross sweaty, stained, awful t-shirt with the embarrassing decal on the front will instantly change any tune from her! And Dad LOVES to play the football/baseball/basketball/talk-radio/old-fart music as loud as he can with the windows down! And he sings along too!!!!

    I hope this gives you a few new ideas!

    • Robyn says

      November 24, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      I am dying. These are flat out brilliant! “Don’t toot! It might not be gas” is unreal. I bow to you and your husband. You guys are amazing! I’m doing these FOR SURE!!!! 🙂 🙂 Thank you!

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